there's no such thing as having NO CHOICE

i hate it every time people say that i have to do these things because i have no choice..
people think that there are things that we have to do because we certainly have no choice but to do it even if it is against our will.. but think twice.. i have lived a life that i have to do things even it is against my will because i have no choice.. think again.. I HAVE A CHOICE.. WE ALL HAVE A CHOICE.. and in every situation.. hard or easy, we all have a choice to make..
>>in riding on our way to the place we have to go to.. most of us commute.. we ride the bus, jeep, or taxi.. when the traffic doesn't move.. we have no choice but to wait until it moves.. even if we know we are late.. we have no choice but to sit and wait.. and most of the time we complain on how unorganized the traffic in the country is.. but.. we have a choice.. if we just choose to not just sit there and do something.. we could.. if the traffic doesn't move.. why don't we start walking? if we are now running late, we'll just make sure that the very next day we should be early.. we'll just have to face the day and do something for it to somehow make the day right.. but we don't do that.. instead of doing something.. we complain.. we open our mouths and blame the world for being so unfair.. that's the problem with humanity.. we don't do something.. we wait for something to happen.. we don't realize that whenever we think that we have No Choice.. the problem gets worst.. and we think that we have no choice but to let it happen.. but.. we do have a choice..
>>it irritates me when people tell me what i should do.. deal with these things because i have no choice.. it's like the same for other people.. i have a friend who live with the family of her aunt.. and her aunt has children and grandchildren living with her too.. my friend didn't have a choice but to live there even though she really felt sad... well, although they are her family, she gets the least of everything.. food, supplies and even maid services.. they live a luxurious life and she lives a life like she's not one of them.. they tell her to do things like try to put water into their glasses.. wash her own clothes.. which at first she understood why.. it wasn't her home.. and she didn't have a choice since she has nowhere to go to.. she wasn't happy.. but she never did have a choice.. and she had to deal with that for almost a year.. she couldn't wait to get out.. she was asked to do things for the grandchildren of her aunt and for her cousins too.. it's like she owes everything she has to them and she has to serve them.. and it irritates me that some people abuse the fact that other people didn't have a choice but to do some things they don't want to do.. maybe out of poverty like my friend here.. (i don't know if i am still making sense here).. because of poverty people do things they don't want to do.. like engaging in illegal acts like prostitution.. women (or sometimes men) who engage in this kind of business do this for the good of their family.. for their children to go to school and to have food on their tables.. and because life is really hard nowadays.. they think it is the easiest way to get some money.. it may be the easiest way.. they don't need to be a college graduate or even a high school graduate.. all they need is the guts to do it.. they may lose their dignity and their pride.. but it doesn't even matter to them.. see? see how the mentality of having no choice do to poor people.. they do it not for fun.. but because they had no choice.. they had to do it and had to deal with it if they want a life for their loved ones.. and they call that a life? it irritates me so much.. i feel pity for them.. i even saw a documentary on the television.. some women have sex in exchange for not money.. but for one bundle of fish or two kilos of rice.. how terrible! it's the worst thing i have heard.. one kilo of fish and 2 kilos of rice doesn't cost more than 200 pesos.. and they sell their dignity and pride just for food that costs less than 200 pesos! and they do it just to have food.. they forget to have respect for themselves and have integrity and dignity just for a small amount of food that could satisfy their stomachs for only one day.. but what they don't know is.. they have a choice.. they could choose a much more decent job.. maybe they would tell me it's much more easier to say.. because i am not experiencing the life they have.. wrong! i don't have to experience their life.. we all have a time in our life that we really suffered a lot.. but we have a choice to wish our lives well.. we could find a job that is more decent and easier to accept.. it's just that we all want to do things the easy way.. easy money.. easy life for our loved ones.. i am beginning to think that this is because of our attitude on being so lazy.. we want to earn money in what we think the easy way.. but the easiest way is the hardest way.. we all have a choice to choose what is right.. because in the end we all get what we really deserve.. i am not saying that prostitutes deserve not to be respected.. they are ought to be respected in some way.. but in general.. we are all like them.. wants to get things the easy way that is why we give up pride and dignity.. let others hurt us and step on us.. we don't have to deal with it! we have a choice to stop it! we can do something else.. and that would be a start on making a change..
>>in dealing with things that has all been said and done... we think that we have no choice but to deal with what just happened and forget about the past and move on.. well.. true.. we could never change the past.. what we can change is the present.. for what we o in the present affects what could happen in the future.. we have a choice to change ourselves and look forward to something different in the future..
*** i guess that's not all what i have to say bout having no choice.. there are a lot of things i have to say.. but i just can't put everything in place right now because it is just so cold tonight... and before i end this entry.. let me just say this.. if you think you don't have a choice.. think again.. you do have a choice.. i was miserable thinking i have to do things just because i don't have a choice.. we all have a choice.. a choice to be happy.. it's just that sometimes we don't make the right choices in life.. so what? so what if we suck up sometimes? we sometimes to commit a mistake to realize what we really want (well.. not all the time).. don't be afraid to fail and don't ever worry in choosing the wrong choices in life.. we sometimes undergo that kind of situation and experience pain just because we got the wrong choice.. but that is why we were not created perfect.. so that we can learn.. it's true that every after a storm or a rain (whatever) there is a rainbow.. and every cloud has a silver lining.. and the sun will always shine in the morning.. or whatever optimistic quotes you do believe in.. it's not wrong to make the wrong choices sometimes.. but we try to make choices to make us happy.. well.. it is a very complicated topic to talk about.. we could change.. we have a choice to change and never give up.. we should not judge a person by what he or she was.. but on what he or she has become.. and it is a good choice in life.. :) CHANGE.. it's not bad.. it is mostly good :) (i think i am not making any sense).. anyway.. we all have a choice.. period! and we should never think that we don't have one.. because life is just full of different choices.. we just have to choose what is right for us.. :)